• The world is full of people who would love you to behave in whatever ways are convenient for them
  • You are being victimized whenever you find yourself out of control of your life
  • Victims are first of all people who run their lives according to the dictates of others
  • Never place TOTAL reliance in anyone other than yourself
  • Whatever your plan, never invest your own self-worth in its ultimate success or failure
  • A goal is just something you want to accomplish, whether you succeed or fail on a given day is no indicator of your worth or happiness
  • If you expect to be upset, then you will seldom disappoint yourself
  • Generally speaking, you will become what you expect to become
  • If you have to have a guarantee that everything will be alright before you take a risk, you will never get off first base
  • Courage means flying in the face of criticsm, relying on yourself, being willing to accept and learn from the consequences of all your choices
  • Failing generally means ending up where you started - it is certainly a situation you can handle
  • The important thing to do is act, rather than try to convince yourself of how brave you are or aren’t
  • Anytime you catch yourself paralyzed by fear, ask yourself - “what am I getting out of this?”
  • Whenever you give another person more prestige than yourself, you set yourself up to be victimized
  • Ask yourself why anyone else’s time should count more
  • Hearing you and then suggesting the opposte of what you’ve said is a victimizer’s best weapon
  • Work at being dispassionate when dealing with potential victimizers
  • Get in the habit of checking every invoice you receive
  • What other people think of you is totally up to them
  • Work actively at risk taking - assertive, confronting behavior - with as many people as possible
  • Be a risk taker with people, or be a victim - the choice is yours
  • You can label what your victimizer is doing and show him you know how he feels
  • Always assess a poential victimizer’s needs as you steer clear of their traps - “Do they need to feel powerful, understood, important, respected?”
  • “You just compared me to someone I don’t know and isn’t here to verify what you are saying”
  • Be persevering in your efforts to avoid being compared to others
  • You will never win if you have to prove you are the winner
  • You need never be mainpulated by others into revealing private information, nor victimized because of blind devotion to the truth
  • Having to prove yourself to others means being controlled by others to whom you must show the proof
  • The best way for chronic complainers to get out of their misery is to get involved in projects they care about and can invest in
  • Stop explaining yourself whenever you realize you resent doing so
  • If you are waiting for people to stop abusing you, you will be waiting forever
  • Allow yourself the pleasure of just doing
  • The world does not owe you a living or a happy life, and the more you think it does, the harder you make it for yourself to get these things
  • Your beliefs will only victimize you if they somehow keep you from functioning effectively in your present moments
  • Whenever people are taught there is only one way to do things, they are lined up for victimization
  • Action is the single best antidote to depression, anxiety, fear, stress, guilt, and, of course, immobiligy
  • The most effective technique for getting out of job victimization is to become your own marketing expert on your own idea